I can’t help but get the feeling that there is something more to life. We’re missing it. It just doesn’t make sense to me to wake up to a 9-to-5, maybe longer, to the same routine, and to hate it. Over and over and over again.
We go to school.
We go to college.
We work hard every day and still we’re in debt. Loans. Bills.
Can’t afford a house. Can’t afford a family.
And when we can, we have to work the system to keep it all.
Tell me, are you happy?
Maybe right now, at this moment, watching your kid’s soccer game you are.
But are you really happy?
Anytime I mention this to anyone, they look at me like I’ve got three heads and just descended from some other universe. “That’s just life”, they say. Let me word it this way:
Are you completely fulfilled? Every day? Completely happy?
There’s always something that we want and the problem is that we think that we have to work the system in order to get it. If we just work a little bit harder then we’ll have more money, we can buy that nicer house and we will be happy, right? Wrong.
The system is fucked.
We make things ten times harder for ourselves than they actually need to be. “It’s not that simple”, seems to be everyone’s favorite phrase. But really, it is. We’ve just been programmed into thinking that we need society’s approval when we want something. There’s horrible things happening in the world on a daily basis, people don’t know what they want, people aren’t happy. Everyone says how society has changed, possibly for the worst. So then, why do we want society’s opinion anyways?
Some things are beyond our control and with that, we have to take it as it comes. But life is 20% what happens to you and 80% how you react to it. So for that other 80%, why not choose to be happy?
We are chasing after the wrong things. The materialistic will never completely fulfill the void. That J. Crew jacket might feel great when you wear it to the next work party but it’s not going to comfort you when your husband dies. The newest version of iPhone is not going to take away any pain or sorrow you might end up with in your life. You cannot make personal connections with material goods. It is unrealistic to expect that the material will fill the empty void of love and personal connection that you’re missing.
So what do we do? It’s even more unrealistic to tell everyone to drop their iPhones and go back to the Razor. That’s not what I’m saying. Buy your iPhones. Go to college. Get a job. But in the meantime, go after what you want. Stop being so afraid of the world and go after it. Stop wanting a defective society’s approval on how to live your life. They’re probably going to find something wrong with it anyways so you might as well do what you want to do. And by doing what you want, chasing after your own happiness, finding compassion for others – maybe we can make this society a whole lot less defective.
If you love someone, you tell them. Even if you’re scared, even if you think it’s not the right thing to do. What if they’re thinking the same thing? What if they’re waiting for you to make the first move? Love that person until the ends of the earth, whoever they may be. We have no right to judge. Love is so pure, it would be a sin to judge such a purposeful and positive thing. If you want to put college on pause for a year and go backpack Europe, then do it. College can wait. Life cannot. Go to a new culture. Study it. Learn something. Find compassion where compassion doesn’t exist. Bring it there so that they have it. Connect with the world and everything in it. Connect with people. Experience something. Do something. Dive so deep into something that you can’t find any reason to turn back. Experience everything full and wholly and completely, in the moment, every moment.
Wouldn’t that be a life worth living?